There is nothing sexier than honesty. Lies keep distance you may not realize, especially in the bedroom.
Some people may overcompensate for their secrets by obsessing over sex whether it shows in frequent masturbation or the constant need to change things up etc. Others may have sex just to get their partner off the scent. The lackluster starfish position should be a dead giveaway, I don't care how many moans come out of it.
Personal bit:
I not only know this first hand through my own relationship but from hearing and witnessing these flaws in others' relationships. It has always been a difficult situation to be in to know hidden secrets and not be able to tell the other partner of what is going on behind their back. I constantly find myself privy to information that would damage a relationship but in the end, I'm just a girl and people (in my experience) are more likely to believe their partner. It baffles me, seeing as though I have absolutely nothing to gain from being honest. I don't have an angle except to spare someone the pain that I went through. No one deserves to be cheated on or have anything they wouldn't be comfortable with going on behind their back.
I find myself being silent and inadvertently sending the partner off to continue their disloyalty with someone who could care less about whether the individual is in a relationship or not. Just recently, a man proposed to the woman he has cheated on for months with another woman he lied to. She said yes. I suspect she still has no idea and it kills me to know she deserves better and that given the opportunity, he will do it again because he didn't face any consequences for his actions.
You can question your partner all you want, and most likely the truth will not come out until an extreme breaking point. If you randomly bring it up or state that something is worrying you, your partner may stop what their doing for a bit, but once you're comfortable again, the disloyalty will start back up. This leads into my next post which will be on communication; an integral part of honesty.
If you're worried and need a sound board to bounce off ideas on, feel free to message me or email me. I'm always here to give advice or just listen.
Monday, February 28, 2011
A Look Back
A little over a year ago I reached a peak in my relationship with my boyfriend. Well, not as much of a peak as a complete cluster fuck. For years there was long distance, lying, cheating, strip clubs, porn. So much was happening behind each others back. It all culminated when I found out he had a one night stand with a girl I warned him about. He told me the very next day. I was devastated. I was no saint, but to feel that pain was unimaginable.
We decided to give us one last chance. It has changed so many aspects of my life but since this is my sexual blog, I am going to focus on that.
We decided to give us one last chance. It has changed so many aspects of my life but since this is my sexual blog, I am going to focus on that.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Eden Fantasys Rocks!
I just won a $25 gift card just for retweeting them! Going to put it towards the we-vibe II.
And don't forget to follow yours truly, lust__caution on twitter!
And don't forget to follow yours truly, lust__caution on twitter!
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Monday, February 14, 2011
Neeeeeples
I am on the hunt....for nipple rings/clamps. I want pretty ones. Either like earrings or a chain.
Example:
Example:
I should probably just suck it up and get my nipples pierced but I would so hate to lose sensation in them....
xxlust_cautionx
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Spanking turns me on so bad. If I were to even lay a finger on my clit after receiving one, I would cum in an instant. I find it more exciting to sit there and squirm with pleasure then to have it end in an instant.
I might be a masochist in that way. I enjoy teasing myself and not giving into temptation right away. But I'm also a masochist in other ways ;) More on that to follow.
I might be a masochist in that way. I enjoy teasing myself and not giving into temptation right away. But I'm also a masochist in other ways ;) More on that to follow.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
I highly recommend these toys:
The middle one was my first vibrator ever. I ran that thing into the ground. The rabbit I love, because the controller is separate from the vibrator. I think I'd be fumbling around too much if I had to resort to controlling it from the base. The cock ring can be fun but you should get used to it on your own first so when it does come time to use it with a girl, you won't cum right away.
My Checked Off List
As promised, here is the list I'm proud to say I've done. I suggest all of them ;)
- Sex on the beach
- Road head
- Sex in a hot tub
- Sex in a pool
- Sex all taped up
- Sex in a car
- Sex on sleep meds :p
- Sex at a rest stop
- Anal
- Sex with people in the same room
- Sex on cam
- Masturbation on cam
- Sexting
- DP, with a toy
- Swallow, it's the only way
- Done a strip tease
- Bought a stripper pole
- Own at least 50 lingerie items not including costumes
- Sex at the casino
- Sex in the rain
- Acted out a porn
- Watched lesbian porn, religiously once
- Given a BJ in a movie theater
- Been to a strip club and slapped some ass
- Wet dreams
Ok that's good for now. A little glimpse into my perv life.
xxLust_Cautionxx
Friday, February 11, 2011
The Sex TO DO List
I like to think I've done quiet a bit in my six years of being sexually active with someone else. (I can't even remember how long I've been loving myself) Yet there are still things I really hope to do in and out of the bedroom. Foxy Lady inspired me to make a list of these conquests! It is a bit short but my next entry will include things I've already done.
- Have a threesome WWM
- Make my own porn
- Go to Sexpo
- Do a spread for Playboy or Maxim.
- Get the We-vibe
- Sex in an elevator
- Shoot boudoir pictures for some sexy ladies
- Have my own full blow boudoir shoot
- Do a pin-up sexy shoot
- Get a full blown dominatrix outfit
- Do a strip routine on amateur night
- Win hottest halloween costume
That's it for now. I'm sure I can add to it later.
xxlust_cautionxx
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
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